My sister got married this weekend, and it was a phenomenal time. In fact, they were married by his former college minister, and she’s a volunteer in that very college ministry now. So while their romance didn’t actually come from the college ministry, it’s certainly close enough to think about how all these things connect.
One interesting way to assess your ministry may be along this very line. Here are a few questions I feel like are worth asking – even if ministries’ diversities will lead to different “right” answers.
1. When couples emerge within your college ministry, are they awesome? A healthy college ministry will likely produce not only healthy couples, but couples that exemplify the very things the ministry celebrates.
2. Is your campus ministry really good about celebrating romance, relationships, marriage, etc.?
3. Do solid Christians within your college ministry regularly enter into relationships? This isn’t a question that produces a clear indication of a college ministry’s strength by a simple Yes or No. But if you’re not seeing couples emerge from within your ministry (and especially if you are seeing students enter into relationships regularly with those outside your ministry), it’s worth asking why, right?
Are you providing opportunities for awesome men of God to meet awesome women of God? Is your ministry the kind of ministry that even attracts those kinds of people? Is there room – even with the accompanying awkwardness – for students to enter into relationships with others in your ministry?
[More on this here – with some great comments from you guys!]
4. Do people get married? Some might pronounce that a strong college ministry will indeed produce lots and lots of marriages. But regardless of your feelings on the marriage age’s shift, that stat is probably affected by much more than our college ministries.
But I think we have to imagine that within a college ministry with more than a dozen or two dozen students, we would likely be seeing the occasional marriage produced (at least). If not, it’s probably worth asking why – even if in the end, we decide we’re right where we need to be.
So there you have it. Four questions. As you answer them, simply consider what the answers in your ministry should be… and then what they actually are. Ministries will be different, but I think these things are worth examining!
But what do you think?